A woman’s hair is her crown and glory

But… Do I hide behind my hair? What if I shaved my hair off, all of it? And no the infamous Cassie side cut doesn’t count,  when I say all I mean all.

Would I feel less of a woman ? Or less girly?

Does my hair define my identity? For example: the longer the hair, the harder they stare and the prettier I feel?

You get that 24inch Malaysian,Peruvian,Mongolian hair and it boosts your confidence like crazy, it’s a great thing to expand your confidence through certain things but is it a great thing to let them be the source of your confidence?

We confuse glory with identity not realizing that glory is an achievement. Achievements are a result of processes which means it’s not everyday that I “have to have one”! My achievements ride on my identity! So even on the day that I don’t have achievements my identity is unaffected and still remains. Let’s take Beyoncé for example, her songs are her achievements but she doesn’t have to release one everyday for her to still be Queen Bey  a great musician.

So don’t let the thought of short and kinky/curly/coily, bald or doing the Big Chop make you feel less beautiful.So many of us are scared to do the big chop, the great BC (cutting off all your relaxed ends, and even shaving your hair off) because of that, but trust me, the thought is a lot scarier than the action.

Infact, I felt a certain relief after cutting off my hair, a certain kind of freedom… for about 20 minutes, and then came horror mode, cussing myself for cutting off my hair, wondering what had driven me to make such a stupid stupid mistake ! It’s normal. Our mind has to get used to all of these things even the fact that you look like a 12 year old. But once you embrace it you realize things about your face that you were never really aware of and no, having a ponytail to the back and having your hair pulled to the back doesn’t count either :)).Once you have cut it, you can’t just magically loosen that hair and let it fall back in place. But what you can do is love it and get to know your hair, it’s the best time to do so. Don’t YOU DARE!!!! hide it under a weave or wig or braids “until it grows” where’s the fun in all of that?

So let me correct that statement , because not everyone can flaunt their mane and whip their hair back and forth, not everyone wakes up *flawless*, some lose their hair because of sickness, others because of stress and others just decide to cut it or shave it off…

A woman’s hair, whether short or long, when rocked by her identity, is her crown and glory


Author: myfrolover

Hey Friends, I’m Marion, I’m a Ghanaian woman living in Germany. I have a story to tell that goes way beyond hair. I’m a writer, a poet, a blogger, an advocate for self love, an adventuress, a creator. Impregnated with creativity and ready to give birth. Myfrolover now is not just a natural hair blog. It’s my blog, my place. A place where I write about my life poetic and editorial, where I write about self-love and self care, A place where I stimulate your eyes with visual creativity and your mind with thoughts that run deeper than the ocean. It’s a place where you can come for a good laugh (I consider myself to be a funny person, weird but funny nevertheless) A place to help you with your hair dilemmas and for natural hair tips A place for knowing about and seeing other creatives, authors, artists, rule breakers, game changers A place that documents my journey through this thing called life But most of all, a place that shows and tells you you are worth it. You are precious. You are loved. Love always, Marion

4 thoughts

  1. This was beautifully written Marion. I totally agree with everything you said and I believe that a woman can rock any length as long as she has her most important accessory- confidence!

  2. Great article!!i love it.for me going natural was somehow learning to know my self. 🙂 what really matters is to enjoy the trip not really getting the length. Keep it up!!

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